Because I have two budding teenagers in the house, a lot of my suggestions or recommendations get met with “I know”.  And if you know teenagers like I know teenagers… they don’t know half as much as they think they do.

And the truth is, most of us don’t know half as much as we think we do. And that’s ok.  

But what makes it a problem is when you think you know twice as much as you do. When you meet every situation with the confidence of a rocket scientist. When you miss an opportunity to learn because you’re so darn sure you already know how to do it.

The thing about relationships is that you’re ALWAYS learning in them. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t get reminded that I don’t know as much as I  thought I did about my own relationship. And that’s a good thing. It means that as much as I may not want to admit it, I need to check my ego and listen more. It also means we each have an amazing opportunity to get better at all aspects of love.

Need to improve communication? Not a problem, you can learn.
Need more vulnerability and connection in love?  No biggie,  you can learn.
Need to stay grounded when you identify and express big feelings?  Yup, you guessed it, you can learn that too.

I guess what I’m saying is when you admit when you’re wrong once in a while or ask for help to better understand, it actually helps your relationship immensely!

Take the time to admit you’re wrong or just don’t know and I have a strong feeling that opportunities to learn, grow, and improve are going to pop up more often.

You got this!

Until next week,

-A

P.S. If you find yourself right fighting, now might be the time to enroll in the Communication Masterclass. It’s a great resource to help the two of you get back on track with your communication AND eliminate right fighting.