I’m a big feeler… shocking for a therapist, I know. But, just because I tend to feel it all, doesn’t mean that communicating when emotions are high is any easier for me than it is for the next person.

Because communication can feel like it’s coming fast and furious when emotions are in the mix. It can be hard to get your bearings and reactions (or words) can come out harsher than intended.

The intensity of it all can almost make you think that one single argument is the end of the world. 

And it’s usually not. Now, I’m by no means discounting the severity of disconnection in your relationship. But I am here to encourage you to slow it all down a bit.

We all know when emotions are running high, we can be a tad inaccurate with our perspectives. You can go to extremes and see things very ‘clearly’ from only your point of view.

Which is why, when it comes to emotional communication and disconnection, you need to remind yourself to…

Slow it down a bit.

A single disagreement is not a sign to throw in the towel. 

A single fight is not a relationship deal breaker.

In relationships, you can never be above slowing it down. Or taking more time to get more information or even taking a break to let clearer heads prevail.

Remind yourself to take it slow when it comes to feelings and I know you’ll have a lot more success in your communication.

I’m cheering you on.

-A

P.S. If you are in the hard place of deciding whether your relationship is still the right fit for the two of you… please reach out. I’m here to support you in all aspects of your relationship… not just the rainbows and unicorns part.