As humans we’re creatures of habit… which means we get stuck in ruts, let confirmation bias ruin our perspective, and allow for what ‘was’ to be anticipated instead of what ‘will’.

And unfortunately, this tendency doesn’t serve us in love.

You see change, growth, healing, progress… all require a level of ‘different’ to occur. And as much as you may want ‘different’ to happen in your relationship, there may be ways you’re unintentionally not letting each other be different.

Meaning that you’re so conditioned to be looking for patterns and consistency, that you miss the inconsistencies that are really the buds of change.

You may be so used to your partner responding or reacting in a certain way, that you are missing the times they’re doing it ‘different’. And that ‘different’ could be really great for your relationship.

You see, assuming you ‘know’ or writing the future because of the past doesn’t allow for 'different’. It prevents new and improved changes from happening. And it likely misses the opportunity to celebrate when ‘different’ occurs.

So this week, I can encourage you to…

Work at letting each other be different.

Work to leave what ‘was’ behind you and be on the lookout for what ‘will’.

Stop assuming the end of a sentence or the repetition of a bad behavior and instead open yourself to the possibility of ‘different’.

Focus on all the possibilities of change instead of the times it didn’t go according to plan.

Don’t squash new attempts at ‘different’ by jumping to how it occurred before.

Let each other be different.

You can do this.

Until next week,

-A

P.S. If you’re stuck in the predicting ‘what will happen based on what has happened’ cycle, please reach out… that is what I’m here for.