I’m a big fan of do-overs.

I’m seriously like a 7-year old on the playground who misses the ball in four square and shouts “do-over”!

Ask my family about the ridiculous things that come flying out of my mouth, quickly followed by, “umm, can I try that again?” and they’ll confirm it’s a thing.

Well… they’ll actually probably say that it takes me a few minutes to course-correct, but what can I say, I’m a work in progress.

I’m so grateful they make room for my mistakes and missteps AND allow for my do-overs.

Because in your relationship, there has to be room for both the mistakes and repairs.

You’re going to mess up, you’re going to step on toes, you’re going to say things that you want to have erased and if you don’t have a plan on how to make quality repairs, you won’t be able to make your way back to each other.

Yes, it’s vital to your relationship to apologize and make amends.  But you also have to have a plan on how you will allow for do-overs. Meaning how do you let your partner say it again, with more kindness, and allow that to be the new words WITHOUT holding onto those original words as the TRUTH.

We’re all going to say things out of turn and if you don’t have a strategy on how to repair and release, you’ll end up holding onto (or having held against you) every wacky thing you said and did in unintentional moments of hurt.

Work together to decide on how to handle do-overs and give your relationship the relief of letting second tries be your first step to repair.

You got this,

-A

P.S. Need some suggestions on how to implement do-overs? Reach out, I’m happy to help.