Relationships are a hotbed of humility. Meaning every time you think you’ve got it figured out or believe that the issue lies with the other person, you get reminded (and sometimes not so gently) that you in fact do not have all the answers. That you too are human and can be blind to the roadblocks you create.

And one of those common roadblocks we fall prey to is how you let each other in.

I hear folks share a desire for more time together, more connection, and more communication, and yet they lose sight of the way they interrupt progress toward meeting those wants. And I’m sure I do too in my own marriage.

Where, instead of slowing down to ask how your mate is doing… in a meaningful way, you just keep scrolling as you ask an obligatory, “how was your day?” sort of question.

Where you interrupt your mate sharing more deeply by stealing the mic and talking about your stuff.
Where you get asked more vulnerable questions by your mate and avoid really opening up.
Where you keep filling up the schedule with so much busy that you forget to leave time for stillness… together.

And the list can go on.

My biggest encouragement to you this week is to take off the blinders and…

Pay attention to how you let each other in.

Be on the lookout for all the opportunities to connect. And, if you find yourself complaining about a lack of connection, don’t be so quick to overlook the ways you may be contributing to it.

Until next week,

-A

P.S. If you suspect you may have some blinders on when it comes to your side of the relationship, check out the Communication Masterclass. It’s a great resource to address communication issues from a neutral place and it’s filled with so many great lessons, activities, and exercises to help the two of you grow in your communication.