I get asked for input or advice quite often. And as wild as this may sound, a therapist’s job is not really to advise. I mean it kind of makes sense, because if your therapist is constantly telling you what you should do… you stop trusting yourself and your own answers. Plus, if a therapist’s advice is bad… they end up getting blamed for it all and that’s never fun… but I digress.

When it comes to advice though… if I was forced to offer one piece… it would be to simply talk to each other.

Talk about the good.
Talk about the bad.
Talk about the scary.
Talk about the celebrations.
Talk about the serious.
Talk about the silly.

The more you and your mate can talk… about the good, the bad, and everything in between… the more you will be able to manage the curveballs that life throws at you.

You will not be able to talk about it all perfectly. You will absolutely say the wrong thing, hurt each other’s feelings, and need to repair. But as long as the lines of communication are open, you will be able to make your way through it… together.

I just know it.

Until next week,

-A

P.S. I know that communication is hard and overwhelming, especially if being vulnerable with each other feels like a risk. I really encourage the two of you to reach out so that we can talk about how couples counseling might be the right fit for the two of you.  A safe place to learn and practice all the ways improved communication can benefit the two of you. That’s exactly what I’m here for.