Embrace Change.

I’m a big believer in personal goals and really believe that if you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll never know if you got there. And after 15 years of marriage, I think one of the biggest learning curves is how my husband and I  navigate our own personal growth.

I know we’re both committed to it and I also know that it looks very different for each of us. I never want to grow and change in ways that leave my husband behind (and him for me), but we also want to be very aware of the best ways to encourage each other with what we’re working towards… without criticism or ‘shoulding’ each other.

And so this last week, as I was reading a book on relationships, it mentioned how important it is to embrace those unexpected ways we’re each growing in our relationship, and it really made me pause.

Because sometimes the way I measure growth and change, isn’t the same way others do, especially my husband.

And when I celebrate and embrace all the wild and amazing ways we’re both evolving, it makes me realize how much all that growth really benefits our partnership.

You see one part of a system can’t change without also causing a ripple effect for the other parts to change too. Think of a stone being thrown into a pond… the whole pond has to absorb the stone and the ripples it created in order to regain its balance.

And the same is true for us in love. When one of you changes, the other will absorb that in ways that can be unseen. But over time all of those little growth edges and changes help to create an even more vibrant version of the two of you.

So instead of being overwhelmed by change or nitpicking what needs to be different, start by doing it yourself instead.

Embrace the unexpected ways the two of you are growing and changing and trust how brilliant it will be as it all adds up to more amazing-ness.

You got this,

-A

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