You don't have to face your hard alone

​​​​​Happy New Year… we did it… we made it out of 2020. Although I know that the changing of a year is not the same as a magic wand, it sure does feel good to flip to a new page on the proverbial calendar.

I think that anyone that has done a “year in the life” review can see all the radically difficult experiences that have stacked up throughout last year.

If you’re like me, you’ve seen cracks pop up in areas that you didn’t know were wobbly. I’ve heard from countless couples throughout last year that were shocked by how much the pandemic showed them cracks in their foundation. Initially, they blamed the pandemic for the cracks, but as time showed, it wasn’t the state of the world that was creating issues in the relationship, it was the stress of the world, pressing against them that showed the cracks that were already there, just hidden below the surface.

And that is hard. And it’s honest. To be able to realize that there is work to be done. Healing to happen. Conversations to have. Forgiveness to offer. Amends to accept.

And you get to choose your hard. Because in all honesty, it’s just as hard to ignore the cracks. Put blinders on to the emotional piles that are mounting in the corners.

It’s all hard, but you get to choose your hard. To face it or to ignore it. To put in the work of healing or to put in the work of avoiding.

You get to pick your hard.

Put in the effort. Real love takes hard work (and it may just be worth it).

​I’m here, cheering you on. You’re not alone in facing your hard… whatever it may look like in your relationship.

But please, choose your hard knowingly.

You’ve got this,

-A

P.S. I mean it when I say you’re not alone and don’t need to do this on your own. I’m here to support you as you pick your hard and hopefully choose to address the cracks that may be surfacing instead of stepping over them in hopes they fix themselves on their own. Don’t hesitate to reach out if I can be of support.