It's Better to Observe Than Absorb

I’m a feeler… there I said it. I believe one of my superpowers is to be able to feel… really deeply… really greatly… really intensely.

And sometimes it just sucks.

I’m so grateful that I have a mind, body, and heart that feels all the things. And it can also be really hard to feel it all.

I’ve worked A LOT in my life to become a better observer of my feelings instead of an absorber.

Because at the heart of it, your feelings are there to let you know something is up. Something positive… something negative... basically that life and all of its experiences is happening.

And just because you’re feeling whatever you’re feeling… doesn’t mean it’s all accurate. Your feelings are part of your lived experience, but they’re not ALL of the experience.

The more you can get into the practice of observing your feelings, the more you will be able to weather the ups and downs that life’s going to hand you.

I know that when it comes to life AND love…

It’s often better to observe instead of absorb.

A few quick tips on how to do it:

1) Take a breath… maybe even a few.

2) Ask yourself, where in your body are you feeling any sensations? Tension? Discomfort?

3) What emotion can you connect to that place in your body?

4) Ask yourself what might be triggering that feeling(s)?

5) Take a moment to observe the information you just gathered… being slow to absorb it as the whole truth.

With practice, you too can become a better observer! I know it’s something I’ll always be practicing because I’m just a better human to be around when I’m doing less absorbing and more observing!

I can’t wait to hear how applying these simple yet practice-worthy tools can help you to feel AND see at the same time.

Until next week,

-A

P.S. Are you enrolled in the Communication Masterclass?? If so, I’m so grateful to you for letting me join you on your communication journey! If not, there is no time like the present to dive and begin mastering your communication in love! I believe in the two of you.