Get comfortable with talking about your feelings

​​​​​​Let’s be honest, as a therapist, I swim in feelings ALL… DAY… LONG. And I don’t hate it. In fact, I love the work that I do and feel quite honored to be invited into such intimate spaces with the couples that I work with. 

With that being said, I’m still human and answer the universal question… ”How was your day?”… with “fine”. I mean give me a break! It kills me when I hear these words coming out of my mouth… especially when I teach something so different to my couples. 

I think the reality of me falling into the same “fine” trap as the couples that I work with, really challenges me to be more creative in my work and in my relationship with ways to slow down and overcome unproductive ways of connecting with my husband. 

Despite the busy lives we all lead, and the million reasons and distractions that keep you from slowing down with each other, it is essential to take time to check-in, open up to your mate and let them know how you’re feeling about all the things. It’s key to how you grow together and not apart. 

And that is my encouragement to you this week… 

Take some time to talk with your partner about how you’re feeling. 

​Because “good, fine, and ok” are not feeling words and they won’t serve you in growing and thriving as a couple. 

Take the plunge my friend and spend some time really sharing how you’re feeling with your mate. I know your relationship will benefit from a deeper conversation. 

And if this feels completely unrealistic and overwhelming right now… that’s ok too. Baby steps my friend. Reach out for support, I’m here to help you dive deeper together. 

Yours,​

-A