Asset or Liability?

Remember when you first met and every little quirk and idiosyncrasy was adorable? Jokes readily available to lighten a situation.  Enjoying a full day together without a care in the world. The carefreeness to not have to stick to any schedule.

And then something started to shift. Those little things that seemed attractive and pulled you in… slowly started to annoy you.  Or they become the rub during tense conversations.  

Jokes to lighten a situation started to feel like no one is taking the situation seriously.

A day without a care in the world feels like shirking responsibility.

Not sticking to a schedule feels like disorganized chaos.

It’s almost like each other’s assets start to feel like liabilities. And it’s not fun. There are a million little reasons as to why this happens but I think the more important thing is being able to figure out how to right the ship. 

If you can think back to when you first got together and some of the qualities that really endeared you to your mate, what were they? What did you really admire? What attracted them to you?

Can you share them with each other? There’s a good chance that what first drew you in is actually a huge asset to your relationship. There’s also an even better chance that by highlighting some of your differences, you can work to use them as big advantages in your relationship.

 Work together to flip the script.

Take the time to have this conversation. Begin to notice how you can really move from worrying that your differences or annoyances are relationship liabilities and instead start to turn them into relationship strengths.

You got this!

-A

P.S. If the idea of finding value in each other’s differences sounds like a really difficult thing to do, it might be worth reaching out. I’m here to support the two of you as you move what looks like liabilities into a relationship asset!