Being accountable is being vulnerable.

I’m a big ‘put your money where your mouth is’ person. When my kids share about something they want to work towards or a goal of theirs, I frequently have a ‘that sounds great, now show me’ response. And when I ask for my husband to help me with something and he says he’s got it, I assume it’s off my to-do list and onto his. And I do the same thing to myself with my goals and tasks. This means that if I tell you I’m going to do it, you can pretty much assume it’s going to happen. And for better or worse, this is how I operate. Sure, I drop the ball or change my mind when I realize a goal is no longer aligned with my season of life. But for the most part, accountability is really big for me.

It's because I believe that being accountable is being vulnerable. 

When you’ve courageously called your shot or said your goal out loud, the vulnerability of putting the work in and following through is big.  

When you show up and there is consistency between your words and actions it’s really quite vulnerable. Yes, it takes a lot to share and open up, but how you put those words into action is extremely telling.

Being accountable to your words, through your actions, is essential.  And when trust has been rattled or even broken, the only way to rebuild is by showing that accountability. Showing up in all the ways that you said you would. By following through on the expectations you set. And by doing the work that you promised you would do.

Being accountable is being vulnerable and your relationship will thrive the more you incorporate this sort of vulnerability into it.

I challenge you to explore how accountability shows up in your relationship and ensure that you’re allowing this form of vulnerability to shine through.

I’m cheering for the two of you.

-A

P.S. If you’re struggling to meet agreed-upon expectations or have damaged trust with a lack of accountability, please reach out.  I’m here to help.