Be fluid in your communication, allow updates and resets.

There is nothing like driving the nightly sports carpool and listening to the clunkiness with which teenagers communicate to really make you appreciate the fine art of speaking. Some of the social graces or natural flow of conversation clearly comes with time and experience.  

And it’s not just teenagers, I also say things the wrong way. I put my foot in my mouth or speak without fully thinking about it ahead of time. And because of all this humanness I’ve got going on, being able to have resets or do-overs in communication is something I’m very grateful for.

I mean, if we were all held to our first draft in every attempt in getting a point across, it would be really overwhelming to speak up in the first place.

I really do believe that communication should be fluid enough for you to change your mind or, by trying it again, be a bit softer and more compassionate.

It takes time and trust to communicate fluidly, but the more that the two of you can allow for updates and resets, the more you’ll notice a certain ease to your conversations.  You’ll notice more curiosity and less reactivity when you give each other the gift of do-overs. You’ll notice that you actually learn more about each other when you’re able to update or change your mind.

Allow for fluidity in your communication and see how it connects the two of you into deeper and more intentional conversations.

You got this.

-A

P.S. If you’re communication has become reactive or defensive because of hurt or rigidity, now may just be the time to check out the Communication Masterclass. It’s a wonderful reset on your communication and really helps you create a strong foundation... together. Follow the link to learn more about it.