Utilize Curiosity To Work Through Problems Together

My kids are in separate classes for the first time since they started kindergarten.  As twins, it was nice to have them in the same class, but the time has come to let them enjoy some separateness.

Funny enough, the separation is actually leading to more arguments.  Maybe it’s the age or maybe it’s the change, but there seems to be a bit more prickliness between the two of them. 

So here we are, refining the art of problem-solving.  Trying my best to give them the tools to figure it out without jumping in to fix it (or losing my patience and hollering at them).

In this learning curve of refinement, I’m realizing how much… even at 9 years old… assumptions find their way into my kids' disagreements. 

It’s quite interesting to hear how rigid thinking is woven into their frustration.

And so I’m working to teach them the ability to ask questions in order to find a resolution.

Because…

At the end of the day, curiosity can help you find a resolution.

Stepping out of rigid thinking and being curious about the other’s perspective and feelings really help to slow down emotionally driven communication.

When you’re able to take a breath, slow down your assumptions and ask questions… you will often find a resolution to the disconnection.

As hard as it may be to see at the moment, there is a resolution waiting for the two of you.  It’s not always a perfect resolution, but working to find one allows the two of you to work through the hurt and move forward.

Give this tip a try this week.  I can’t wait to hear how it comes in handy.

You got this.

Yours,

-A

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