Holiday Calm or Complete Calm?

The holidays are here… are you ready? I mean are we ever ready?

I’m sort of a nut during the holidays. I like to do all the things. 

Bake the cookies. 
Watch the movies. 
Look at the lights. 
Overdecorate my house. 
Shop way toooooooo much.

Oh and spend so much time with friends and family.

Now for me, this sounds like an absolute blast. More fun, more people, more chaos… bring it on!

And as much as my family enjoys this stuff too, I just don’t know if they enjoy it at the same pace that I do.

At first, I couldn’t understand why they weren’t all on board with ALL THE FUN and then I realized they (may) have different expectations of what the holidays look like for them.

And those times when we haven’t slowed down to communicate our expectations or vision with each other, it’s resulted in a lot of disappointment for all of us.

Which is why it’s so important to…

Take the time to communicate expectations.

Slowing down and having a conversation about your expectations of the weekend… the month… the season really helps to collaborate and create a beautiful shared vision and absolutely reduces the chaos. 

Communicating expectations helps the two of you to talk and walk through shared experiences with so much more ease.  It helps you get connected so you can be (and stay) on the same page.

Sure, it may take some compromise and releasing ideas that aren’t aligned, but the results can be pretty magical.

Step into this season with more communication about your expectations and enjoy the connection that grows from it. Because how magical would it be if you could reduce the chaos and increase the calm? You might really enjoy this holiday season.

Yours,

-A

P.S. If communication about expectations seems REALLY overwhelming, check out the Communication Masterclass to learn the foundations to productive communication in love.