Make room for mulligans.

It’s the Masters weekend. One of my favorite weekends every year. Anyone that knows me well enough, knows that I love to watch the Masters.  Now, I don’t follow golf super closely and I have only played a full round a time or two, but for whatever reason, I love the Masters. The history, the pageantry, and the naps. Yes, you heard me right… the naps. I think that the best nap of the year is the Saturday afternoon with the Masters on in the background. I mean it can’t be on Sunday during the final round because that has to be watched… but I digress.

And I believe that naps and the Masters go hand in hand because a nap is all about a reset and a restart and well, golf has those fantastic things called mulligans. The do-over, the 2nd try after things have gone awry, that we ALL need in life and ABSOLUTELY need in our relationships.

Just like one bad stroke doesn’t have to derail your golf game, one misstep or bad mood doesn’t have to derail your day. When you allow for mulligans in love, you give each other the gift of second chances. The gift of do-overs. The allowance of our humanness to be forgiven and repaired.  

One important thing you have to remember is that a mulligan requires acknowledgment. You have to admit that your shot off the tee was a blunder and that you’d like to replay the stroke.  

And the same is true in love. When you’ve misspoken or downright messed up, you have to acknowledge it and repair it. You can’t sweep it under the rug and act like no one saw it. You have to speak up and deal with it.

Allow for mulligans in love… and use them wisely!

Until next week,

-A

P.S. I know hurt and resentment can make it difficult to allow for repair. Don’t let the feelings and injuries of your shared past stop the two of you from being able to move forward together. Please reach out if I can help.