Don't admire the problem.

I love a good analysis. A hypothetical discussion about what coulda, shoulda, or woulda been done. I’ll even entertain a strategy sesh (and sometimes a good conspiracy theory).

But what I won’t do for very long is admire a problem.  You’re going to see my patience thin and my frustration rise if you keep me sitting too long staring at a problem that really needs to be solved.  As much as I try to not give my opinion unless asked, I have a hard time sitting on my hands when possibilities exist and are not being utilized.

I do believe in the importance of more deeply understanding a situation and think that introspection is key to our growth.

And I also think that movement and application are vital to change.

Relationships are complex and evolving. They’re dynamic and ever-changing. But you have to move from admiring a problem to addressing it. 

Yes, spend some time talking about how you got here or what you’re going to do to fix it. But don’t spend even a moment less putting the same amount of energy into doing it. To trying. To practicing. To putting it all into action.

When it doubt, don’t admire the problem… put energy into fixing it.

I believe in the two of you,

-A

P.S. If you’re overwhelmed by where to start or what first step to take, reply to this email. I’m here to help. Don’t stay stuck just because you don’t know where to start.