Health check up.

It’s January, which means everywhere you look is focused on fitness and food plans. And as important as this all is, what about the other areas of health? Relationship health… communication health… these are important ones too.

Now I get that communication health might be a rarely talked about area of health, but nothing feels better than when you are communicating in a positive and fluid way in your partnership.

So if one of your 2025 relationship goals is to improve your communication, here are some do’s and don’ts to follow:

Communication Don’ts:

Don’t freeze each other out: Going long periods without talking or completely ignoring each other for hours (or days even) does not help anyone ever.  Sure, I’m a big believer of cooling off before saying something you regret, but that is very different than stonewalling. Shutting down and intentionally refusing to communicate won’t get the two of you to a healthy place.

Don’t fight dirty: Name-calling, hitting below the belt, or using someone’s insecurities against them is never ok. Keep it kind. Keep it productive.

Communication Do’s:

Be fluid in your communication: Work to be able to bring up most topics at most times. Yes, there is a time and a place for hard conversations, but don’t make it all so off-limits that the important conversations become few and far between.

Keep it about the matter at hand: There is nothing more derailing than having 5 things from the past come into your current conversation.  Now I get it, past events impact current feelings, but you also need to keep your conversation to the matter at hand in order to get some traction.  Acknowledge the other stuff that needs to be talked about (and get to it) but don’t try and do it all at once. 

Make 2025 the year where you focus on all aspects of health… including your communication health.

You got this!

-A

P.S. If you’re communication has become a bit toxic or unhealthy, check out the Communication Masterclass. It might be just the thing you need to focus on your communication health this year.