Your feelings shouldn’t have to hold up in the court of law.

Feelings are a funny thing. You can’t see them, you can’t touch them, sometimes it’s hard to describe them and yet, they are absolutely real.  They’re subjective and personal to each person, but nonetheless, they’re legit.

And because of all these funny things about feelings, expressing feelings can be a tough thing to do.  And even tougher to get the other person to understand.

If you remember one simple truth, it can help in both expressing and validating feelings.

Your feelings don’t have to hold up in the court of law.

Even though your feelings are real, they’re also not fact. Meaning they’re not the only way to feel in a given situation, they’re just how YOU feel in that situation.  And because they’re individual to you, you don’t need to debate them or make sure everyone else is in agreement on how you feel. 

You just get to feel it and own it.

Your partner and your relationship should be a safe space to express how you feel. And the more you can share, without feeling like you have to justify and defend, the more openness you’re going to experience in love.

Work to be a better steward of not only owning how you feel but also of validating how your partner feels.  And see how this practice really helps to improve communication.

I’m cheering for the two of you,

-A

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