Resolve or Resolution?

This may be embarrassing to admit, but throughout all of my 43 years, I’ve never really slowed down and realized the deeper meaning of the word resolution. I mean, of course, I know what it means, and I’m a big fan of setting ones around the beginning of the year. But I’ve never been hit, in the way I was a few weeks ago, with the realization that the heart of resolution is to resolve. 

To resolve… to answer… to work out… to solve… to find the solution.

Pretty much what I work with couples on every day. 

Finding ways to not just scoot around the issue or bury it in distractions and interruptions… but to resolve.  To work out a solution, to solve.

Because at the end of the day, resolution is HUGE. It means that you have revisited whatever occurred to create the disagreement or disconnection.  ou slowed down, listened, spoke, and heard. You didn’t ignore or minimize it. And you addressed it. You may have not found the only solution out there, but you have a solid plan of how to handle it differently next time, and you’ve worked to find a solution that sets you up to succeed.

So this year, as you’re working as a couple to set relationship resolutions… try to focus on the stuff that needs to be resolved and do your best to answer… to work out… to solve… to find the solution in the best way you can.

Your relationship will thank you for this sort of resolution!

 
Happy 2023!!

-A

P.S. Don’t forget to take time to set relationship resolutions and goals together this year. If you need some tips and tricks on where to start… reach out… that’s what I’m here for.