I grew up ALWAYS having to write thank-you notes pretty much instantly after opening the gift. And it drove me crazy.
Now in the hindsight of adulthood, I don’t think my mom really made me write a thank you note before the wrapping paper made it to the garbage can, but she sure was a stickler for them.
And as the great irony of parenting goes, I’ve become a stickler for them too.
But I realize that sometimes writing a thank you note, or saying an obligatory ‘thanks’… can feel just like that… obligatory.
‘Thank you’ should be a phrase used often in your relationship. You are on the same team, which means that being together should be an asset to your lives. You should be helping each other out, going the extra mile, having each other’s back.
And yes… all of those actions should be noticed with gratitude.
But, saying ‘thank you’ shouldn’t just be about the words, it’s also about showing it.
Don’t just say how you feel… show it!
Show your appreciation for one another.
Show your excitement to be in each other’s lives.
Show your gratitude for working hard to create success together.
Don’t just rely on your words to express themselves in love… use your actions too.
Spend some time this week noticing the ways you can say AND show how you feel in love… I know it will be worth it.
Yours,
-A
P.S. If you struggle with showing your appreciation or gratitude and rely more on words and less on actions in love, let’s chat. Maybe some relationship coaching can help you to really step into demonstrating your love for one another. Because it really is important.